Why seek validation from man

Divine women – it is time you stop seeking validation from man. Stop seeking validation from friends and social media. Your focus should be on God.
Seeking validation from man will hinder your progress and your success, it traps you. Remember you are worthy, you are loved, you are beautiful, are valuable and you are unique.
Stop putting all your hopes in a man, you don’t need a man to validate or approve your worth. Understand who you are, believe in yourself and your own capabilities for your victories. You are enough. Freedom from inside is when validation from outside has no value and when it has impact on you, on your choices and decisions.

How to stop looking for validation from others

1. Know your selfworth
2. Self acceptance
3. Believe in yourself and your capabilities
4. Work on self love
5. Create your own happiness
6. Find balance
7. Work towards your goals
8. Find a hobby, enjoy it and love it
9. Eat healthy and you’ll look & feel good at the same time
10. Be proud of yourself
11. Self respect
12. Self confidence
13. Never loose yourself in the process

Verses Readings
1. Phillipines 4:13  I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me
2. 2 Timothy 1:7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.
3. Psalm 139:13–14 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are.
4. Proverbs 3:6 Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.
5. Proverbs 3:26 For the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.
6. Psalm 138:8 The Lord will perfect that which concerneth me: thy mercy, O Lord, endureth for ever: forsake not the works of thine own hands.
7. Galatians 2:20 I have died, but Christ lives in me. And I now live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave his life for me.
8. 1 Corinthians 2:3–5 I came to you in weakness—timid and trembling. And my message and my preaching were very plain. Rather than using clever and persuasive speeches, I relied only on the power of the Holy Spirit. I did this so you would trust not in human wisdom but in the power of God.
9. Acts 1:8 But you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you shall be witnesses to Me in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the Earth. Amen

Abusive and Toxic Relationship – How could you Love Me and Hurt Me

Abuse is painful

When a woman falls in love she falls 100% she has no doubts or hesitation about her decision. She natures the love she gives and gives it her all. She doesn’t seek validation for her choice to fall in love with becsuse her choice is so real and so genuine.

It becomes her best place to live in and sharing her space is all up to her choice e.g. She decides to share it with the world or not, because she has found what she has been longing for. In the mean time joy and happiness are her source of life and the reason to smile from ear to ear.

She loves like no other and is comfortable in her own skin and sees nothing wrong with spending more of her time with the person that she loves so dear and adores so much. She even forgets that she had a life of her own before meeting her partner and that there were people that share life with her and also her in return.

New love takes center stage and takes over and before she realizes it days pass by without meeting and even seeing other people besides being cousy in her love corner or on the cloud 9. Reality is that time flies by fast and it takes days, weeks and/or months she has not been in touch with her real world and only realize it time had passed by so fast. Only snuggling and being couzy with one person.

And in no time this person starts changing and starts showing true colors and that they are not the perfect picture that they have been showing or putting up or even painting about themselves.

All of a sudden the lover starts controlling; start putting time for when you should be home and who they should be around with – and how much time they should spend away from them or home.  They have this picture that they control the woman because women become their controlled object now.

Then that behavior is followed by the rude attitude, loosing temper for the woman & always tempement and loud. They loose respect and start shouting and ill treating their woman as if she is a child and not a woman anymore. Verbal abuse usually comes and is unavoidable because now he owns the woman.

He thinks that no one else can help her regain the respect that has lost. Emotional and psychological abuse is rising and everyday a woman is made to feel unworthy and lost and as good for nothing. She is abused daily by her partner.

The problem here is that; the more the woman tolerates his behavior the more countrolling he becomes and uncontrollable and unappreciative he becomes towsrds her. At some point he looses his temper and lays his hands on her. The woman is hurt and devastated because once it starts it never ends and it never stops.

Most of our women and mothers and grandmother’s went through this and now our generation of women should not be faced with such behaviour and no woman deserves to be hit or killed. All the issues that women are faced with e.g. Gender Based Violence; Femiside and Rape; ukuthwala etc are on the rise in our country and we need to stand up and fight against these oppressive and abusive behaviors. 

Charity begins at home and it starts with teaching our young boys how to care and treat the women in their lives.

Government is doing its part and putting policies in place and initiatives, but the abuse happens at homes of the victims and not at the police stations or where police can reach the victims on time. Women face up and experience abuse that they do not deserve and should never go through for the sake of love.

What does the Bible say about verbal abuse?”

The Bible does not use the term “verbal abuse,” but it has much to say about the power of our words. “The tongue has the power of life and death” (Proverbs 18:21).

“Sticks and stones can break a bone, but words can never hurt me” is not true. Abusive language has a deep, long lasting effect that can “pierce like swords” (Proverbs 12:18).

God’s desire is that we “encourage one another and build each other up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11) and that we “do not let any unwholesome talk come out of [our] mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs” (Ephesians 4:29). God intends that our words and our relationships be healthy and life giving. Keep in mind, God created the universe with His Word (Genesis 1:3, 6, 9, 11, 14, 20, 24) and Jesus Himself is called the Word of God (John 1:1, 14). His desire is that we recognize the power our words carry and use them as He would.

Press On Through The Storm

Never cease to Pray. Endurance is something that God blesses us with when we walk with Him. When we are faced with many tests & trials & tribulations in our lives.  We always think that after we pray all our troubles will be over but the tests and trials on our way are 10 times what we thought.  We pray & we overcome one challenge and the moment we get back on our feet then the next attack is just there in front of you waiting on us. Press on never stop Praying.

We always wonder why do we get delivered at church after prayers or at revivals and during prophetic encounters and as we think that everything is well and we believe that all our troubles are over – in reality a flood of attacks comes again and we start to doubt the power of God.

If our faith is weak and we are not strong in prayer, we Press on & never stop Praying. We are never defeated in the Mighty Name of Jesus Christ we stand Victorious and we shall not be defeated by the enemy.

I went to church a while back and when one woman stood up go give a testimony, she indicated how things got better at home after the prayers by the Pastor. Now she is back a week later because both her brothers whom she came to get prayers for they have been well but now they are fighting again and they nearly killed each other. The devil saw an opportunity to attack again because they didn’t – Press on never stop Praying.

This  brought me to a point that Christians  When we come and we ask God for Deliverance – we expect everything to go our way but we do not give God the Glory that He deserves. Praise Him unconditionally and don’t manipulate him. God is a God of all thing El Shaddai Adonai

Christians, my brothers and sisters choosing to praise and worship God is an individual choice and it takes dedication and commitment to keep on praying and praising God.

We all face trials and tribulations in our live’s but that does not mean the God has forsaken us. We shouldn’t worship God with conditions, that we should always see miracles in our lives and in our family lives. The wicked enemy is always preying and looking to attack us but Press on never stop Praying God reigns forever more.

Persist on my sister pray until something happen, because the more we dedicate our lives to God to be able to overcome the evil and all the challenges. The more we become Victorious. We may not be in a position to see all the challenges God had pulled us through. The truth is that they are tons but we just fail to keep on praising and honor God for all the great thing He has done for us.

P. U. S. H = Pray until something happens

pray until your situation turns around. God has never forgotten us never left us

The Divine Voice of God and Glory of God is at work:
in our lives,
in our Marriages
in our homes,
in our relationships,
in our work places
and in our places of worship


I am, you are and together we are the Divine

My heart bleeds and aches

A crying woman with a bleeding heart by alamy.com

My heart bleeds and aches because I keep letting you into my life and all you keep doing is to hurt me over and over again. I am the one who always apologizes even when I have done nothing wto g to you. I am the one who is always trying to fix things when I have done nothing wrong to break it.

My heart bleeds and aches because you are the one who have wronged me, insulted me, illtreat me and disrespect me. You fail to even apologize or be remorseful about it. Your rude attitude and ego always prevails.

My heart bleadds and aches because here I am: still I stand by you
still I apologize,
still I forgive you,
still I love you
Still I respect you
Still I want us to work things out

My heart bleeds and aches because still I want and you don’t. Still I want us to work things out but the truth is:
You don’t care about me or for me anymore
You don’t show remorse
You don’t give or show me love
You don’t appreciate me or my efforts
You don’t respect me anymore
You don’t….

My heart bleeds and aches because i always give
I always give you unconditional love
I always give you endless attention
I always give you all my trust
I always give you all my support
I always give you my all

My heart bleeds and achesbecause because you don’t care about all the
All the Love I give
All the respect I give
All the care I give
All the support I give

My heart bleeds and aches because you don’t seem to want thing between us to work
I follow you
I beg for your attention
I ask for your time
I don’t feel you love for me ayymore
You don’t call me
You don’t text me
You don’t email me
You don’t Skype me
You don’t communicate with me
You don’t….

My heart bleeds and aches because
I call you and you don’t answer my calls
You don’t return my calls immediately
I call you and your line is always busy
If I can’t reach you then who is keeping you so busy
I text you you don’t reply yet you are always online
I email you and you don’t reply to my emails but you are always in front of your laptop
You don’t….

My heart bleeds and aches because here I am caring for you, pouring my love for you, humble myself to you and you don’t care about me anymore. Your way of communicating with me always you fight or lash or snub me instead of sharing and pouring out your love for me.

My heart bleeds and aches because when you are not with me, you see an opportunity to hurt me, be disloyal to us. You don’t protect me from hurt and from all harm that you are causing us.

My heart bleeds and ached because you always create an opportunity for a fight so that you can do all of the wrong and hurtful things and come and blame it all on me because we had a fight.

My heart bleeds and aches because you never give or show accountability for any of your actions. You always blame me for provoking you.

My heart bleeds and aches because
I still let you disrespect me
I still let you control me, how I talk, how I do things
I still let you abuse my emotions
I still let you take advantage of my goodness
I still let you walk all over me
I still let you fool me and take me as a fool
I still let you disregard me and my feelings
I still let you…

My heart bleeds and aches no more from this day onwards you have no more control over me, my body, my mind, my soul and my feelings and God is the one to own my heart.

God will mend my broken heart and make me new again. God Heals and God provides. God is Love


1 John 4:8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. … God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him.

The Women’s plea and call for God’s Divine Intervention 

Our country Mzansi is under immense attack and the women are on the forefront of the suffering. Why are women suffering at the hands of their loved ones who are supposed to care and support and protect them. Women have been and are opressedfaced with Domestic Abuse, rape, Femicide and Gender Based Violence at the hand of man who are supposed to love them.

We need to stand together and fight this skirge against women abuse and killings. We need to move away from talking only and Act. We can talk and be vocal about this but we need to do more and stand together in prayer because we need to fight but not against humanity but the principalities that are in the spiritual realm.

Ephesians 6:10-14 New International Version (NIV)
The Armor of God
10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. 13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place.

Africa as a whole needs to stand against the devils evil plan and we claim the Divine Intervention of the Holy Spirit through the Blood of Jesus Chris to flow over our land.

Our land is under serious seige but we shall all stand victorious in the mighty name off Jesus Christ our worrior. He reigns forever and ever more. We can not stand back and look at what is happening in our land as if we do not know what the Bible has taught us. We have been warned a long time ago of such things shall happen in our land but we have forgotten our teachings and lost focus and purpose in God.

What a mighty God we serve – He is God the way, the truth and the life. We remember him and never stop praising Him faithfully. He is Jehova Jirra, He is the Lord our Provider and He shall see us through. It is not by own Mighty but by His spirit God saves and Hhe will save our women from all forms of suffering and attacks and hardships.

Now we shall stand in the gap and we are calling on the divine intervention of God. A miracle or an act of God to cause something good to happen and to stop all the bad things from happening. God is our refuge and strength and He is a very present help in times of trouble.

I am, you are and together we are the Divine Voice for Women

In Solidarity together we stand and separated we fall.
#Aluta Continua
#Imbokodo
#womanstruggles
#womanissues
#strongwomen
#Victory
#Youareworthy
#youarebeautiful
#youloved

#No

#WePray

#enough

#stop

#hearmycry

Realising the Dream “I Am The Divine Voice For Women”

How it came about for me to realise the dream of being “The Divine voice for the women”. Oneday i was driving home and it was during one of the fasting periods in my life because, I am very spiritual in everything I do and if there is something I see that doesnt go well for me, also my family and in my life in general. I meditate and I pray alot. So for years now I have been thinking about writing a book so I can tell the story about my very colourful life growing up and my family back home (extended family) from my grand mother, my mother’s life (both my parents involved); growing up with my dad and life with my siblings. Basically, I wanted to paint this picture so that it can make a whole lot of sense to other families and other women. Its been years now ive been trying to create a blog but i never put much efforts to it.

I started a family of my own and I wanted to document every part and every step of my kids growing up but i was just not getting a hang of things and how do i create a blog – its such a simple thing to do right? Well, seemingly not for me cause it kept me trying for years from starting but i was always trying I never gave up.

Only now or recently i realised that this is the path God has been pushing me torwards. The writing has been on the wall all along I just never listened or took note of it and/or deeply understand it. I’ve now come to a point of realisation that “It Is Time” now is the time for me to start working and touching people’s lives out there.

I am the Divine Voice for Women and I intend to inspire and motivate women who have lost their voice. Who find it difficult to chin up and see the goodness in themselves – also to be able to stand in front of the mirror and affirm themselves of their worth.

The main purpose for the Divine Voice for the Women blog is to inspire, encourage and motivate the women of all race, all ages and coming from all corners of the Earth. also to connect and engage at a more personal level with women from all diverse cultures, who come from all walks of life and have walked this path. Women who are willing to commit to this vision and walk this path with me as the Divine Voice for the Women.

Also to stand together in Solidarity in order to save our future generation from falling in the same pit and situations. We look forward to embracing one another’s uniqueness and wrongness. In Solidarity “together we stand” #MbokodoPower.

The divine voice for the women also intends to give hope to the many women who have been and are still facing many challenges in their personal space, in their homes and in their lives in general.

We focus on empowering women to rise up and stand against any toxic situation in their lives: in particular to the many challenges, issues and difficulties women face in their daily lives such as:

1. Family life issues
2. Relationships and marital issues
3. Career advancement or stagnation
4. Health issues and well-being
5. Finance and independence challenges
6. the Rights of women and
7. many more we are not subjected to these topics only

We are izimbokodo – amakhosikazi “Strong women” – we stand together for humanity, freedom of speech & participation and the liberation of women and young girls from all forms of oppression and abuse.

Together we stand and separated we fall! Aluta Continua!!!

I am, You are and Together We are The Voice For The Women!!!

[ ] NB: I must say that using WordPress was the best choice or the best thing to do. It became easy for me to understand what is it that I need to do and where do I start. So this blog was created in that moment. Tx WordPress ThamiM

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

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